Funny how words stay in your mind. Like the first time you hear:
You are so special.
You are beautiful.
I love you.
Will you marry me?
You are pregnant.
You have cancer.
You need surgery immediately.
I'm sorry there was nothing we could do and he/she is dead.
I want a divorce.
I don't love you anymore.
You are dead to me.
God loves you.
You are going to be a Grandparent.
Words are powerful. Words can hurt, lift you up, bring you down, make you think, change you mind, cry, laugh and fall in love. Words can also however, make you fall out of love, make you more afraid, unable to trust and be all around confusing. Also interesting is that 80 percent of communication is done without words and through our body language.
Why then do we need to hear we are loved, appreciated, respected, funny, attractive, brilliant? In a hug alone their are thousands of unsaid words that your soul feels. In a kiss you can feel the love, closeness or the separation and indifference. You can feel.... sense if either comes from the heart or is it expected and routine and not a true show of one's affection or intention. A touch of one's hand can either comfort or offend. Why would we want to take the risk of hearing words that were maybe chosen hastily, without careful thought or of a pure heart? Words merely spoken out of obligation, hatred, jealousy, conviction imposed by others or to better a situation for selfish reasons are better left unsaid.
Sometimes we as humans need to hear words. Words unsaid that we so long to hear or read ......can erode into a river of loss in your brain. Why then are the words so hard to say ...to give, to someone who for whatever reason longs to hear them? Words are free. They cost you nothing or they could cost you everything. It probably only takes a few minutes of your time. If you are unable to speak them ...why wouldn't you simply write them down as a testament to the feeling you are unable to convey? Can another person really know what is in your heart or on your mind? When will it be your last chance for the words to be heard, accepted and the received the way you intended them?
Unspoken words can be heavy over time. Heard again and again in your mind driving you mad, but too late to say. Have you questioning if maybe they could have made a difference in a life, in a situation, in a decision. Love you wish you had proclaimed. Apologies you wish you had given or received. Guidance you could have provided and might have been life altering. Respect and admiration you could have shared, but you kept selfishly for your own awareness. Compliments you kept inside, embarrassed to speak, or ones you hadn't courage to accept. Compassion for another soul hurting that could have brought comfort to them when they desperately needed to hear them.
Words left unsaid can never be heard.
Talk to those you love!