Sunday, January 16, 2011

OK Robin...Here we go....19 Q & A

I was tagged by Robin to answer these questions.  I usually am a talker and would bend your ear for quite some time if you allow me to....but I've had a rough run here lately and frankly I don't feel like talking much or opening up.  But, Robin is my I gotta do a girl good right?  I'll try my best but won't provide the in depth answers she did. I intentionally didn't read her answers so I wouldn't get freaked out...but I did see the length of the post!  Robin sometimes intimidates me...she really gets down in there with it ya know?  I'll do the best that I can....with what I've got...that's all I can do.

1. if you have pets, do you see them as merely animals, or are they members of your family?

Pets, well I guess to me they are just pets.  I do the best I can by them but I do not treat them like they are members of my family.  We have had many pets over the years and some hold a special place in our hearts, two dogs, and two cats to be exact.  However, I would not spend thousands of dollars for surgery or a burial plot or have a service with a head stone.

2. if you can have a dream to come true, what would it be?

I would love to have my Dad back but that would be a miracle not a dream. To be free of pain.  I know that is a selfish dream but being honest here.  That would be my dream.  Next....Italy!

3. what is the one thing most hated by you?

people who are liars.  Zero tolerance

4. what would you do with a billion dollars?

take care of all of the people I love, do the best I could to help children all over the world...the more I could reach the better.  I'd have to think about how and what kind of charities would be best but I'd love to help children, maybe in schools...children are being short changed these days it seems.  I would surely spoill my family and loved  ones but I would not go overboard but Jay and I would travel, I would take my grandchidlren on trips.  Build memories...that is what I do.  Try to protect thee beaches too.

5. what helps to pull you out of a bad mood?

anyone who knows me knows this  i think an Ipod is therapy.

6. which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?

i think this is the most difficult question.  I think the most blessed is someone loving you...they have to choose to give of themselves, to love you, give to you isn't your doing that is a gift like no other.  They decide you are somehow worthy or deserving of their love.  What a compliment, their is no higher compliment than to be loved.  When you love someone else, it is a blessing, you learn about yourself, about life...about what it means to hurt when someone else be happy because someone else is happy but it is of your choosing your gift to them. To be loved is a gift from another.

7. what is your bedtime routine?  

bedtime??what is that?? I have insomnia remember?  I always kiss the Hubz goodnight but I usually get sent to bed when the hubz gets up for work or I pass out watching an old movie.

8. if you are currently in a relationship, how did you meet your partner?

I met the love of my life when I wasn't even looking.  Met him at work.  Took to him instantly, I knew he was a good man.  I wasn't wrong.  Thankful we were in the same place at the same time.  Divine intervention indeed.  He was a very good friend when I neeeded him, and I think I was the same to him and then one day we realized the friendship had gotten stronger and deeper and we wanted to be together.

9. if you could watch a creative person in the act of the creative process, who would it be?

Monet....I would love to watch him paint...or maybe Van Gogh just to find out why he was such a tortured soul...seems all artist have a burden to bear.

10. what kinds of books do you read?

novels, some of everything really, lots of lyrics.  Anything that interest me.  Some mysteries, some self help books dealing with alternative pain treatments.  Some biographys, just whatever interest me.

11. how would you see yourself in ten years time?

oh not a good question with what has gone in my life in the past few weeks.  I would love to see me and the Hubz retired living the good life, traveling, gardening making memories with our grandchildren.  Riding our Harley, taking long walks together, deep sea fishing together.

12. what’s your fear?

that things...relationships won't be reconciled before I die.  That I'll die young like my Father. That I won't have much time to spend with my Hubz and grandchildren.  I hope it will be enough for my grandchldren to remember me, and I hope my daughter will be ok without me.

13. would you give up all junk food for the rest of your life for the opportunity to visit outer space?

No way!

14. would you rather be single and rich or married, but poor?

Married and poor.  How poor?  Ok..ok....I don't care too much for money cause money can't buy me love.

15. what’s the first thing you do when you wake up?

Head straight for the Bunn coffee pot.  Dark Italian Roast coffee, check to see if I see my name in the obits...if not pour a second cup and get on with it.  Bunn is a great coffee pot makes a fresh pot of coffee in three minutes. Of course I kiss the Hubz if he is home.

16. if you could change one thing about your spouse/partner what would it be?

He would be more of a talker.  Still waters run deep.

17. if you could pick a new name for yourself, what would it be?


18. would you forgive and forget no matter how horrible a thing that special someone has done? 

Well that depends.  I guess I feel the love I give others is somewhat conditional.  I expect you to treat me as well as I treat you, respect me like I respect you....but if you sincerely were asking for forgiveness and needed me I would try my best to be there for you..but I might not be able to forget it.  I would have been there for you you would have never had to hide what you had done, you could have talked it over with me.   We would have found a way.  If you went ahead did whatever,, then expect me to forgive and forget...depending on the situation that could be impossible.  I love my husband more than anyone, but if he ever cheated on me, said he was sorry I would forgive him, but I could not forget and remain his wife..  It would have to be over because I would no longer trust him.  People that distroy your trust have to or need to understand it takes time to rebuild a friendship longer to rebuild love.

19. if you could only eat one thing for the next 6 months, what would it be?

potatoes.  I love potatoes, you can do so much with them.  Don't like meat that much, other veggies would get old, fish would get old, rice....boring...OH  I just thought about soup!!!! Can soup be an answer??? their are all kinds of soup..I love soup especially this time of year.

Now to tag four unsuspecting brains. 




Don't hate me too much for choosing you, I'll just love seeing what your answers will bring.  I love reading each of your blogs and think you'll really have some good answers.  I have one seperate question of my onw.

have you ever been betrayed by a family member to the point it broke your heart?  What did you do to get through it and go on with life?  What made it better?

Carol-the gardener


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  2. Whoa, Carol, this will take time..Just want u to know these answers will not be too detailed since there are quite a lot of questions and I don't want to hog space here.
    1. I have had pets all through my life and yes they start out as pets, but the longer they have been w/me they become family.. They are all unique in personality.. I remember when each had to be put down and I know u can imagine the pain they were in... I had to be the one to put our last dog down.. She was 14 developed cancer and ironically this happened right after my husband was killed...
    2.The dream I would have would be for my son to work thru his issues.. He is trying to but in the meantime he has brought down (emotionally) his sisters and me...
    3.The thing I hate most about me is that I am too trusting.. and its come back to bite me.. I found out I am too naive.. I guess its because I would hope that others would be just as trusting.. I've learned my lesson and go more w/that gut feeling... So many times, I would go against it, now I stand behind it.
    4.If I had a billion, I would have laws changed. Laws that infringe on people's rights, medical issues.. Give money to charities, have foundations that help people- especially children...
    5.Kalei, pulls me out of a mood, photography, art journaling, reading...All an escape and mood lifter. be loved or love- that is hard... both one is enhanced and lucky to have/do....
    7.Bedtime routine: laptop in bed, book, watch a little tv, and Kalei is usually beside me...
    8.Not in a relationship since last Jan. I made the decision to end it because I just couldn't take any more of the lies and self abuse my ex bf was doing. He did come into my life when I was ready to have a relationship... I would love to have another but I have seen what is out there and the quality is not to be desired...My other gf's have had similar problems w/men.. We all agree that we'd rather be alone than settle.
    9. Well u picked one of my faves. I saw 'Starry Night" at the Getty and was surprised how small it was... Monet, I love.. any Impressionist artist. I also love architecture... European especially.. their architecture tells a story and the detail is awesome.

  3. Great answers Carol! Actually, I was tagged earlier this week and have already done this! Thank you for think of me!

  4. 10.Books I read: right now the Steig Larsson trilogy, bios ( Freida Kahlo) omg, Selma Hayak played her.. u have got to see the movie on Netflix!. Kahlo was a famous mexican artist... u would love her work. Also finished Ted Kennedy's memoirs, Jodi Picoult, classics- Hemingway is my fave.. Girl, the list is endless.
    11.In 10 years I will be 66 (OMFG) and I hope I am still healthy and active..I've been told I don't look my age, so I am hoping that will still hold true when I am 66.
    12.My fear is seeing the whole world destruct.. To witness disease taking over, the environment being destroyed to the pt. where the wildlife struggle, pollution destroying everything.
    13.For one thing, I don't eat the amount of junk food that would make me want to give it up to go into outer space... lol... and I have no desire to go to outer space.
    14.Well money is not an issue ... for now I am single and happy not to be one who has settled..I've never let money define me, if anything it can be a curse.
    15.If its not an exercise day, the first thing I do is feed Kalei, turn on the laptop, read the paper, etc.
    16.IF I were still w/my ex-bf. I would want him to change his views on money and lose the drinking issue!.
    17.Brenna ( its the name my hubby and I came up for our 3rd child that turned out to be a boy! and no his name is not Brenna! lol)
    18.Forgive and forget is hard- depending on the situation and who it would be..
    My ex bf- I gave 3 chances for him to redeem himself... 3 is my limit... he still tries to communicate w/me.. I realize his issues are from childhood but he';s an adult and needs to be accountable... all adults do...Eventually, I can forgive him, (out of sight out of mind).. Forget? nope, because what he did has changed me. Made me more aware of people who have his issue. That is about the only good thing about it.
    19.For six months I could eat spinach, because its so versatile... u can saute it, eat it raw, make soup....(tho, I find it hard in eating anything for 6 mos straight).

  5. LOL, I figured out how to post the answers!..

  6. Hi there, Carol... just answered them! Thank you!!
    I hope all is well with you!!! :o)


  7. I think that your answers were very thoughtful and insightful. Hugs to you. I don't have an answer that I think you will like to the betrayal question. I think you have to treat it the same as you would any other betrayal. Being around toxic people is still toxic. It doesn't change just because they are family. Yeah, that sucks.

  8. Loved reading your answers.